Loving without Expectations

My church has within the last few months begun asking church members to blog after a sermon, assigning a different person each week, to share how God is "messing with you" after hearing the sermon  I was assigned this week.  It sure is difficult writing with my name attached to it with people in real life reading it.  It makes it much harder to be "transparent," but I am trying hard to let God grow me in this way and being brave.  Here's what I wrote shared for the readers of this blog below.  I pray God can use it to "mess with you."


Mother Teresa’s said, “Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.” My mind first wraps around “small things” as I find great joy in small things in my everyday life. My mind then travels to answer the question, “What small thing are you supposed to do with great love” and I wonder why I never think to share my daily small joys with others. For instance, a twig of my beautiful purple mum recently broke off and I am finding great joy in the non-symmetrical dangling of the flower over a glass of water. I could share that small joy by clipping another twig and giving it to someone. How easy is that!

In Luke 6:27-36, Jesus teaches us about “doing good” to those who hurt you. Jesus gives us concrete actions (love, do good, bless, pray, offer cheek, give, do so to them, lend, and be merciful) each which can take on a different meaning for each person based on life experiences. Those things seem easy to do until Jesus takes that a step further by connecting those actions with certain people (your enemies, those who curse, one who strikes, anyone who begs).

My first thought is, “who are my enemies” and I feel blessed and thankful to realize how rarely people are directly malicious to me. I am surrounded by wonderful people. But if I must choose, considering “those who have hurt me,” my mind goes directly to people I love who have rejected me. That is where the real hurt hits. I feel as if instead of being mean to me, people simply walk away from me, avoid me, and reject me. Not just any people, but people I love who won’t love me back. I yearn to repair that broken relationship, but am not sure how to do it. I want so badly to do all that it takes to show love, but the lack of response makes it hard for me.

Then I feel convicted by God’s Word. “But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil” Luke 6:35. When I make an effort to reach out to those whom I love that have rejected me, do I expect something in return? Yes! I admit it! I do! I expect them to respond and for that brick wall to come tumbling down. My doubt that the wall will tumble causes me to hit that pause button. Expectation merely leads to hurt and that pain in the heart when my expectation is not met. It’s time to shed that doubt through a change of attitude towards expectation and just do it because Jesus first loved me.

I will never give up on people I love. My love is unbending. Determination resides in my heart. However, God’s working on an attitude adjustment in my heart this week. An adjustment to change from expectation to hopefulness, to erase all doubt, and unclick that pause button.



The Yoder Gang said…
Well said. I needed this word today. Thank you for being brave.
Maggie Adair said…
Beautifully written. Thank you for sharing this journey. My hubby was just saying this morning how there are many indigenous people walking aimlessly and hopelessly around Darwin, Australia and how other people just walk on by with no thought or care to these lost folk.

When we are called to show love, God doesn't expect us to be selective of who we show love to. We are not called to decide on the worthiness of the other person or whether or not they will receive that love. We are just called to love all people, irrespective of who they are and what they do/have done.

I used to run a self-esteem course for women back in Sydney. I asked the women one time: do you think people who have murdered are less worthy than those who have lied. Do you think the rapist is less worthy than the one who steals. It was interesting to see their reaction.

It doesn't matter who we are or what we've done in the end. God loves us all equally & He expects us to do the same. May we all have the heart of Jesus when it comes to people
rondanoh said…
Great study...all of us need these reminders from time to time.
peabea said…
(But if I must choose, considering “those who have hurt me,” my mind goes directly to people I love who have rejected me.) Those words really stick out to me. I've dealt with that for quite a few years now. I've forgiven, but so hard to forget. Your post is a reminder that working on those things with the conviction that Jesus will be right beside to help. Lately, it seems God is messing with me in large ways. I sometimes I feel like I'm living Dicken's Christmas Carol of Life Past and Life Present and leading me in ways to deal with it, but sometimes, I feel like I may not be quite getting his message. Enjoyed your post. :)

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